Haunted Children

In My Opinion

Too many times children have sputtered the words “there's a ghost in my room/under my bed/in my closet etc.” The sad reaction by adults more often than not is “there's no such thing as ghosts” But how do we know? Just because we can't see them does that mean they aren't there? Most times the parent is telling their child this in the good faith of quelling their fears. But what if they really are seeing something? In my opinion that would create more fear. Imagine yourself as a child seeing something or someone you do not know or understand. Of course your first instinct would be to go to someone who can help i.e. mom and dad......but they tell you it's not real. How scared and alone that must make a child feel. Not to mention feelings of not being “normal” because they see things others do not. Now I'm not saying that every time a child has an imaginary friend that it's a spirit. I think it should be handled on a case by case basis. After all no one knows your child better than you.

As paranormal research has grown throughout the years we have learned that children typically seem to be more aware of paranormal phenomena. Now the reason for this can be debated. Some who are more religious based would say it is because they are pure of heart and do not understand the concept of sin. Others who take a more scientific approach would say it is due to the UV filter on the eye being only partially formed during adolescence. We have come up with many explanations through the years in an attempt to define why they see what our eyes cannot. Whatever the case it seems pretty clear that children seem to be more in tune with paranormal phenomena than most adults.

In my opinion whether you as a parent believe in ghosts or not is irrelevant at this point and your response is crucial. To dismiss the child’s disclosure will put them in between believing you and what they may be experiencing or seeing with their own eyes. As an investigator I've had people tell me numerous times that ghosts are not real. Yet many of these non believers go to church every Sunday and worship the Holy SPIRIT!

They say “you can't prove ghosts exist” and their right! I

cannot give any concrete evidence that ghosts exist.....but they cannot give me concrete proof that they don't.

So how can you dismiss what your child is telling you without proof?

Although many adults like to consider themselves as“open-minded we are the complete opposite. This is because we were“programmed” as children by our own parents. As much as we may not want to be like our parents,we are...they made us that way. For centuries we have been told ghosts don't exist,stop talking to yourself. This kind of thinking by our own parents has closed our minds to anything that is not flesh and blood or solid as a rock. As children,we have no preconceived notions of what is supposed to be real and what is imaginary. We don't even know what an imagination is! Now think about it...wouldn't that make it extremely easy for a spirit to try and communicate with a child? So why not your child?

There has been a vast amount of documented cases where a child or baby has has been moved from one spot to another,or infants who have gained possession of toys that were no where near them. How many times have you watched a baby move it's eyes around, almost like following someone and laugh for no apparent reason? Well maybe it's nothing....or maybe it's grandma come to visit. Can you prove it's not?

Most fear is based on the unknown,so if your child is telling you they see a ghost chances are they are probably already a little scared. So what would be the harm in exploring the unknown together in order to extinguish the fear? By believing your child and giving value to what they are telling you will reap great rewards as your child grows. You will be building a trusting relationship with them and giving them the confidence to speak out on other important matters. Think about it... if someone shot down everything you said would you keep talking? Most likely you would grow to be a person who keeps their opinions and ideas to themselves for fear of rejection. As a parent I'm sure none of us want that for our children. I think of the credible psychics out there today and many have said their gift started in childhood. Most were either afraid to tell their parents or were not believed by them. I find that very sad. Think of where we may be today in paranormal research if only these people had been believed as children.

All I'm saying is that if your child is telling you this then the idea of a ghost is already implanted in their minds so listen to them! Be there as a guide and let them explore the possibilities. Teach your child the true meaning of being open minded and break the cycle of programming that has been instilled in you.

Nicole Ortiz

Connecticut Soul Seekers

Paranormal Investigations and Research Group